We all carry stories that shape the way we see ourselves and the world. These narratives often stem from pivotal moments in our lives, particularly from childhood. However, some stories may have roots even deeper—perhaps tied to past experiences that are harder to comprehend.
Take this example: Imagine you're a three-year-old child. You've just finished drawing something you're proud of, and you want to show it to your parents. At that moment, they’re arguing in the kitchen over a bounced check. Your father, overwhelmed by frustration, snaps at you when you try to get their attention. As a child, you might internalize this moment as, I’m not good enough, or I’m unworthy of love.
In reality, your father’s anger wasn’t directed at you but at the situation. He loves you deeply, and years later, your parents are still happily married, looking back on that argument as an insignificant bump in their relationship. But for you, this isolated incident became the seed of a limiting belief—a story that shaped your interactions and choices.
Over time, this story might manifest as fear of rejection or conflict, holding you back from pursuing opportunities, forming close relationships, or living authentically. Though the event was brief and unrelated to your worth, it became a narrative that controlled your life—a version of reality that wasn’t true but felt very real.
Understanding and Moving Beyond the Story
This example might seem simple, but many people’s stories are rooted in far more complex or painful experiences. Regardless of the specifics, the principle remains the same: We can choose to uncover, understand, and rewrite our stories.
Moving past your stories doesn’t mean forgetting what happened or necessarily forgiving those involved. Instead, it’s about changing how you respond to past events and the triggers they create. You reclaim the power to decide how these stories shape your present and future.
A Healing Approach
In my training and lineage, we use a process called Illumination to work through these stories. When I work with clients, we begin by identifying their biggest life issue—whether it’s self-esteem, feelings of worthiness, or unresolved trauma.
Using the Illumination process, I focus on the energetic imprints of the issue within the person’s chakras. Chakras are energy centers in the body, often visualized as spinning vortices of light. When trauma or limiting beliefs are present, these energy centers can slow down or become unbalanced.
I help clear the energetic affinity or imprint tied to the issue, allowing the chakra to spin freely again. This process acts as a reset, enabling the client to engage with triggers in a fresh way. In many cases, the triggers lose their hold entirely. For deeper wounds, additional work like soul retrieval may be needed to address the original source of pain.
What If You Don’t Have a Shaman?
If you don’t have access to a shaman or similar modality, healing is still possible. Other approaches, such as Parts Work or similar therapeutic methods, can help you unpack and rewrite your stories.
Start by identifying your most significant issue or belief. Ask yourself:
Do I feel worthy?
Do I feel loved?
Do I believe I’m enough?
Go beyond surface-level concerns. For example, if your biggest issue is not having enough money, dig deeper:
Why do I feel this way about money?
Do I believe having money makes me a bad person?
Is my self-worth tied to material success?
Keep peeling back the layers. Is your desire for money really about financial security, or is it about being noticed, loved, or valued? Do you equate a big house or an expensive car with being worthy of love and acceptance?
The Work Begins
This process of self-exploration isn’t easy, but it’s transformative. By facing your stories and understanding their roots, you can begin to shift the patterns that no longer serve you.
Take the time to ask yourself the tough questions and be honest with your answers. On the other side of this work lies freedom—the ability to live a life that isn’t controlled by old stories but is instead shaped by your conscious choices and authentic self
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